Greetings all,
I hope you had a productive week and if you were here in the northern hemisphere you got out and enjoyed a bit of the thaw before the latest cold front swept in. We are past the height of winter now but it can and will still take a bite.
This weekend is Valentine's Day. I have in years past expressed that this is by far my least favorite holiday. I always tend to be single when it rolls around. However this year it has me thinking of relationships in general. We as human beings build our life around our relationships. We start with how we relate to ourselves, our family, friends, colleagues, and our partners. Relationships are the one aspect of life where if we don't have good ones it is nearly impossible for us to find happiness. Once our biological necessities are met the quality of our life will be directly impacted by the quality and depth of the relationships we have.
The interesting thing is that we are given almost no formal instruction as we grow up about relationships. The current trajectory of our technology actually makes us less likely to interact with people. Our relationships color everything and we for the most part just wing it when it comes to navigating them. Unless we end up in counseling we may not ever even attempt to look at the structure and patterns that repeat in our lives when it comes to them.
People are rapidly losing the ability to make and maintain friendships due to all the time they spend behind a screen (not you dear reader of course so please continue reading). There have been studies that show that kids who were denied screen time improved in their ability to read emotions in facial expressions. I am thankful each day that texting was not around when I was growing up. Now it is common for elementary school kids to have cell phones. We have teenagers on social media. So we have given over our socializing responsibility to television, the internet and smart phones. I can't tell you how many times at either a family gathering or at a party people are on their phones rather than relating to the people around them.
So you'd think with how important a good healthy social network is to our overall wellbeing that we would be a bit more deliberate about our relationships. It unfortunately usually takes a few really bad ones to make us more aware of how we are delegating our time. One of the most significant events of my life was parting ways with a whole group of people. I'd never done it before. I had always been too afraid of being alone. However when I finally did it a huge weight was lifted off of me. It came as a great source of autonomy that I could in most cases dictate who was in my life. Growing up in school you are stuck with the people in your class, your household, and your neighborhood. Now as an adult the people I am stuck with are very few in number and usually are family members or coworkers and the rest is all my choice. I've spent the last few years cleaning house when it comes to the people I allow in my circle and while sometimes I feel lonely it is momentary because the truth is there are people who want to spend time with me. I am very blessed to know and care for good honest people and to have them care for me as well. So while I pass Valentines Day single I don't greet it unloved.
So how does any of this apply to you? Well how conscious are you of who you spend your time with? Whom do you allow to settle into your life? Are you giving the people that genuinely care for you the attention they deserve? Are you wasting your precious time and energy on people that are users or abusers? Do you feel spread thin by all your relationships or do you feel bolstered by them? Spring is almost around the corner so it might be time to do some of your own house cleaning. What if you gave those that mattered to you a bit more of your time and those that you don't matter much to less of it? Let me know what happens in the comments.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Musings
Friday, February 13, 2015
Thursday, February 5, 2015
Yes I Too
Greetings all,
I got quite a response from last week's post. Friends were calling me making sure I was okay. The impression I apparently projected was one of anger. In all honesty there was a hint of that but it was more frustration than anger. I generally wait a while before I write about something that is bothering me, but if my deadline comes and I don't have any other inspiring ideas I write about what is on my mind.
There is always a misconception that because of what I do and who I am that I don't suffer from the same life challenges, drama, and burdens that everyone contends with. Sometimes I am going to be upset and sometimes it is for a very good reason. Sometimes it is because I have my head up my ass. I reserve the right to feel how I feel and to occasionally have my head up my ass. I am not a guru, I am not an ascended master (at least not that I know of). For me asking myself what would Jesus (or any other spiritual guru like Gandhi, Buddha, Moses, Babaji) do, is a meaningless question. I've had some say I shouldn't enforce consequences with people because it is not the compassionate thing to do. I then remind them that I am the Mooneagle, not Christ. I do have hard edges at times.
The world we live in requirers us to have boundaries and limits on what we will accept and do. We should try and expand those if we want to experience something new. However, we still need to have boundaries. One of my teachers often says to me, "We teach people how to treat us." Occasionally I need to be reminded of that. So yes I get short with people sometimes. I get pissed off, revel in impatience, and yes I do whine. I'm not happy about it either believe me. Usually I snap out of it fairly quickly. There have also been times where some friendly intervention has suggested I check my anal cavity if I wish to locate my head.
Why am I going into all this? Well I am human this time round the third rock and that means I sometimes get my panties in a twist and I need to cut myself some slack for that. Pretty much I got up today and didn't kill, rape or steal so I am not all that terrible. Many of us who are consciously walking a path of dedication hold ourselves to impossibly high standards and beat ourselves up when we don't measure up to an avatar. Out of the billions of people that have lived there have only been a handful of enlightened masters at any one time, so if you just look at the numbers this is kind of an uphill battle. Now I'm not saying we shouldn't go for high ideals, but let us remember that our ideals and the action of our life won't always mesh. There are cross currents in life that we have to respond to. So the best we can hope is that our ship is pointing the right way.
Well what about you? Do you hold yourself to impossible standards? Do you berate yourself when you are less than ideal when you've not had enough sleep or ran out of time to have lunch? Do you expect others to always behave in completely rational ways? Do you think that you are a rational being? Well hate to break it to you, but many of our responses are subconsciously dictated. They are ordered deep within behind curtains where they play cards with our shadow. Sometimes we will be selfish, judgmental, and uncaring. What if recognizing that you forgave yourself and strived to just do your best whatever that is on a particular day? What if you didn't have to be your best self everyday but just the best self you can manage each day? Would that shift how you treat yourself? Let me know. In the meantime I have some complaining to do….just kidding.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
I got quite a response from last week's post. Friends were calling me making sure I was okay. The impression I apparently projected was one of anger. In all honesty there was a hint of that but it was more frustration than anger. I generally wait a while before I write about something that is bothering me, but if my deadline comes and I don't have any other inspiring ideas I write about what is on my mind.
There is always a misconception that because of what I do and who I am that I don't suffer from the same life challenges, drama, and burdens that everyone contends with. Sometimes I am going to be upset and sometimes it is for a very good reason. Sometimes it is because I have my head up my ass. I reserve the right to feel how I feel and to occasionally have my head up my ass. I am not a guru, I am not an ascended master (at least not that I know of). For me asking myself what would Jesus (or any other spiritual guru like Gandhi, Buddha, Moses, Babaji) do, is a meaningless question. I've had some say I shouldn't enforce consequences with people because it is not the compassionate thing to do. I then remind them that I am the Mooneagle, not Christ. I do have hard edges at times.
The world we live in requirers us to have boundaries and limits on what we will accept and do. We should try and expand those if we want to experience something new. However, we still need to have boundaries. One of my teachers often says to me, "We teach people how to treat us." Occasionally I need to be reminded of that. So yes I get short with people sometimes. I get pissed off, revel in impatience, and yes I do whine. I'm not happy about it either believe me. Usually I snap out of it fairly quickly. There have also been times where some friendly intervention has suggested I check my anal cavity if I wish to locate my head.
Why am I going into all this? Well I am human this time round the third rock and that means I sometimes get my panties in a twist and I need to cut myself some slack for that. Pretty much I got up today and didn't kill, rape or steal so I am not all that terrible. Many of us who are consciously walking a path of dedication hold ourselves to impossibly high standards and beat ourselves up when we don't measure up to an avatar. Out of the billions of people that have lived there have only been a handful of enlightened masters at any one time, so if you just look at the numbers this is kind of an uphill battle. Now I'm not saying we shouldn't go for high ideals, but let us remember that our ideals and the action of our life won't always mesh. There are cross currents in life that we have to respond to. So the best we can hope is that our ship is pointing the right way.
Well what about you? Do you hold yourself to impossible standards? Do you berate yourself when you are less than ideal when you've not had enough sleep or ran out of time to have lunch? Do you expect others to always behave in completely rational ways? Do you think that you are a rational being? Well hate to break it to you, but many of our responses are subconsciously dictated. They are ordered deep within behind curtains where they play cards with our shadow. Sometimes we will be selfish, judgmental, and uncaring. What if recognizing that you forgave yourself and strived to just do your best whatever that is on a particular day? What if you didn't have to be your best self everyday but just the best self you can manage each day? Would that shift how you treat yourself? Let me know. In the meantime I have some complaining to do….just kidding.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Sunday, February 1, 2015
What's it Worth to You?
Greetings all,
Talk about a week on fast forward. I've been getting geared up for a bunch of projects for the year. To say the upcoming months will be busy is an understatement. Between writing a book and the new meditation group I am starting in February I also have a big speaking event in May. I've also had some workshops on the burners lately but I am calling those off.
I get asked to teach classes or workshops a lot. People seem so excited when they ask me. So after a while I will pull all the materials together work with my guides and create a workshop or class. Then when I finally get it all set up and have put in time these same people don't sign up. Recently I had a bunch of people want me to almost cut my price in half for a day long workshop. It got me really upset. Teaching is not something that I find is easy. It takes a lot of work, much more than goes into doing session work for clients. I am funny about teaching. I want to have a lot of background and experience in anything I present, so I do research. I either do a lot of shamanic journey work to prepare or I read up and experiment (usually some combination of the two). So I get touchy when people ask for something and then try to low ball me and haggle on the price. I try to keep my prices as low as possible.
What I've been noticing is people want Walmart prices in metaphysics. I also hear things like, "Well Madame X only charges 20 dollars for a reading." Here is the thing, Madame X just got a notion to learn to read tarot 2 months ago and now has decided she is a reader. Now that is just fine I don't mind we all start somewhere sometime, but I have people who have read a single book act like they are an all knowing guru. Madame X may only charge $20 but I charge more because I started in 1992 not two months ago. That goes across the board to all my skills. I constantly upgrade and reinvest in some form of training or deepening of my talents.
So people are wanting to pay Walmart prices for five star service. I have over my life had a real problem with self worth. I always am concerned with whether or not I am providing valuable service to clients. So when people balk at my prices or ask for a deal (and yes sometimes I do have stuff on sale) it strikes a nerve. Having spent years feeling worthless I no longer will put up with being treated as if what I do isn't important. There are times when I offer stuff to people freely, but it is never the people who ask me. I have new videos out every month and I get a lot of good feedback from people that tell me just watching those has helped them, so I no longer feel guilty about telling people no. Basically I am valuable and so is my time and attention. Now I don't mean to make this a rant about money, because it goes deeper than that. I have been concurrently experiencing a related issue in my personal life where some people don't have time for me or the only time I hear from them is if I reach out to them. It is the same thing. People are reflecting that fear of not being worthy or valuable. So in that sphere I've begun to clean house and invest less in people who can't see my value. Here is the bright spot in this, there are actually people that can't wait to spend time with me. There are people out there that value, respect and gosh darn it even like me. So I am making the executive decision to similarly invest my time with these wonderful souls.
I know me me me, but what about you you you? Are you feeling valued or worthless? Are you letting people project their opinions of your worth onto you? Are you valuing the people around you? Do you spend your time and attention on people who just can't make the time for you unless they need something? Well my dear if so perhaps it is time for you redistribute your time and energy. What would happen if you focused on where you were appreciated, and what would happen if you made an extra effort to appreciate those around you? Tell me all about it in the comments section and don't spare the juicy tidbits.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Talk about a week on fast forward. I've been getting geared up for a bunch of projects for the year. To say the upcoming months will be busy is an understatement. Between writing a book and the new meditation group I am starting in February I also have a big speaking event in May. I've also had some workshops on the burners lately but I am calling those off.
I get asked to teach classes or workshops a lot. People seem so excited when they ask me. So after a while I will pull all the materials together work with my guides and create a workshop or class. Then when I finally get it all set up and have put in time these same people don't sign up. Recently I had a bunch of people want me to almost cut my price in half for a day long workshop. It got me really upset. Teaching is not something that I find is easy. It takes a lot of work, much more than goes into doing session work for clients. I am funny about teaching. I want to have a lot of background and experience in anything I present, so I do research. I either do a lot of shamanic journey work to prepare or I read up and experiment (usually some combination of the two). So I get touchy when people ask for something and then try to low ball me and haggle on the price. I try to keep my prices as low as possible.
What I've been noticing is people want Walmart prices in metaphysics. I also hear things like, "Well Madame X only charges 20 dollars for a reading." Here is the thing, Madame X just got a notion to learn to read tarot 2 months ago and now has decided she is a reader. Now that is just fine I don't mind we all start somewhere sometime, but I have people who have read a single book act like they are an all knowing guru. Madame X may only charge $20 but I charge more because I started in 1992 not two months ago. That goes across the board to all my skills. I constantly upgrade and reinvest in some form of training or deepening of my talents.
So people are wanting to pay Walmart prices for five star service. I have over my life had a real problem with self worth. I always am concerned with whether or not I am providing valuable service to clients. So when people balk at my prices or ask for a deal (and yes sometimes I do have stuff on sale) it strikes a nerve. Having spent years feeling worthless I no longer will put up with being treated as if what I do isn't important. There are times when I offer stuff to people freely, but it is never the people who ask me. I have new videos out every month and I get a lot of good feedback from people that tell me just watching those has helped them, so I no longer feel guilty about telling people no. Basically I am valuable and so is my time and attention. Now I don't mean to make this a rant about money, because it goes deeper than that. I have been concurrently experiencing a related issue in my personal life where some people don't have time for me or the only time I hear from them is if I reach out to them. It is the same thing. People are reflecting that fear of not being worthy or valuable. So in that sphere I've begun to clean house and invest less in people who can't see my value. Here is the bright spot in this, there are actually people that can't wait to spend time with me. There are people out there that value, respect and gosh darn it even like me. So I am making the executive decision to similarly invest my time with these wonderful souls.
I know me me me, but what about you you you? Are you feeling valued or worthless? Are you letting people project their opinions of your worth onto you? Are you valuing the people around you? Do you spend your time and attention on people who just can't make the time for you unless they need something? Well my dear if so perhaps it is time for you redistribute your time and energy. What would happen if you focused on where you were appreciated, and what would happen if you made an extra effort to appreciate those around you? Tell me all about it in the comments section and don't spare the juicy tidbits.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Saturday, January 24, 2015
No Time Like the Present
Greetings all,
I hope your week went well. It is only the third week of the year and I am very hopeful about how the course will run for 2015. I have been dashing about madly tending to one thing or another. I've also plunged into enjoying myself at one of my typically least favorite times of year.
In winter it is difficult for me to get myself up and out of the house. Now so far we've been pretty lucky about snow and ice (I may regret saying that but remember I said so far). It can be a challenge to get me to break out of my routine even in the summer. However I've started to make little changes here and there. I've made the effort to enjoy this time between the holidays and spring and I think it is paying off.
In times past I would always try and wait for other people to go out and do something with them. I would try to gather everyone together, but what usually happened was I ended up waiting and missing whatever it was I wanted to do. So far this year I've had a game night, I've taken a day trip to visit a friend on her farm, and tonight I went to a community ecstatic dance gathering. I don't know if it is well known but the Mooneagle likes to dance. Truthfully he loves it. The thing is I (thought referring to myself in the third person was getting tiresome) don't like clubs or bars. I don't drink and the energy I sense there is very sexually predacious. When I dance it is about the spirit moving not about grinding my pelvis against a stranger's booty. (Not that there is anything wrong with that if said stranger is amenable, but it is not my thing).
My point is that I've packed a lot of living into these past few weeks. I hope to continue this endeavor as I move through this year and the all the ones that may follow. I've stopped waiting for life to happen, and for companions. I'm making my own entertainment. I'm taking me out for a date, and I am finding that I am a fantastic date. I should have started dating myself years ago. Basically I've stopped waiting for the right people or time and just decided what I wanted to do and then I go do it. A better life isn't waiting on the horizon it's waiting on me to decide to seize it.
So how about you? Are you waiting on someone to spice up your life? Are you missing out on life while you are waiting on others? What if you didn't wait on the right person, season, or to fit into those old jeans again to get out on the town and boogie down? Maybe you've always wanted to take an art class or learn to make sushi. Well what's stopping you? Decide to do it and then make your plans. Those that matter will be there even if it is just you. The only person you really need to show up is yourself in any case. So paint the town red, magenta, or electric blue if it fancies you.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
I hope your week went well. It is only the third week of the year and I am very hopeful about how the course will run for 2015. I have been dashing about madly tending to one thing or another. I've also plunged into enjoying myself at one of my typically least favorite times of year.
In winter it is difficult for me to get myself up and out of the house. Now so far we've been pretty lucky about snow and ice (I may regret saying that but remember I said so far). It can be a challenge to get me to break out of my routine even in the summer. However I've started to make little changes here and there. I've made the effort to enjoy this time between the holidays and spring and I think it is paying off.
In times past I would always try and wait for other people to go out and do something with them. I would try to gather everyone together, but what usually happened was I ended up waiting and missing whatever it was I wanted to do. So far this year I've had a game night, I've taken a day trip to visit a friend on her farm, and tonight I went to a community ecstatic dance gathering. I don't know if it is well known but the Mooneagle likes to dance. Truthfully he loves it. The thing is I (thought referring to myself in the third person was getting tiresome) don't like clubs or bars. I don't drink and the energy I sense there is very sexually predacious. When I dance it is about the spirit moving not about grinding my pelvis against a stranger's booty. (Not that there is anything wrong with that if said stranger is amenable, but it is not my thing).
My point is that I've packed a lot of living into these past few weeks. I hope to continue this endeavor as I move through this year and the all the ones that may follow. I've stopped waiting for life to happen, and for companions. I'm making my own entertainment. I'm taking me out for a date, and I am finding that I am a fantastic date. I should have started dating myself years ago. Basically I've stopped waiting for the right people or time and just decided what I wanted to do and then I go do it. A better life isn't waiting on the horizon it's waiting on me to decide to seize it.
So how about you? Are you waiting on someone to spice up your life? Are you missing out on life while you are waiting on others? What if you didn't wait on the right person, season, or to fit into those old jeans again to get out on the town and boogie down? Maybe you've always wanted to take an art class or learn to make sushi. Well what's stopping you? Decide to do it and then make your plans. Those that matter will be there even if it is just you. The only person you really need to show up is yourself in any case. So paint the town red, magenta, or electric blue if it fancies you.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Saturday, January 17, 2015
Only Room for Love
Greetings all,
I realize the past few months I have been harder edged than usual. Life sometimes goads a response to treatment and mine has been to be a little less patient with people and their "stuff". In setting boundaries with people it is easy to forget about love.
Some may argue that we should accept everyone unconditionally into our lives and just love them. This sounds pretty and is a beautiful concept. Some people even seem to manage this. I don't generally recommend this as a lifestyle choice. Let me explain. Whenever I have been lax in screening the company I keep I have ended up in very dangerous situations. I have in the past been: confronted and drained of my chi by psychic vampires, threatened with bodily harm at a party (the man had a gun in his truck…he didn't make it to his truck), been physically assaulted in a public restroom by a drunken concert goer, and interacted with magical folk that liked to try out their hexes whenever they disagreed with someone. This list is just a short summary of a few years in my twenties when I didn't realize that I had control over whom I interacted with in my social life.
I am sometimes accused of being cold or stand offish. People mistakenly think I am looking down at them. I am not, what I am doing is hanging back for a while to see if they are the sort that is going to fly off in a rage and attack me. This makes me slow to warm up to people, particularly if they project a hard or aggressive demeanor.
Compassion, acceptance, and inclusion are central concepts to many spiritual paths. They are easy to say and hard to practice. I give myself a little more leeway now considering all that I have experienced. Doing clearing work and depossession on occasion you run across beings that do not provoke a loving response, usually they stir up the opposite feelings of revulsion and terror. My response has been to call in helping spirits that remove them as lovingly as possible. It ends up being a healing for them too though as they are removed from the sphere of worldly influence and are tended to. Recently in doing a little clearing work for a good friend (no entities involved just emotional energy) while we smudged and rattled the space I began to sing various power songs. I find that singing is one of the best ways to focus energy and intent and to move with spirit. As I moved through one of the more charged spaces I began to sing "There's only room for love." This became a chant and then a power song in its own right. It is simple and powerful. It allows beings to retain the choice of what they carry on them, but also enforces good boundaries. If there is only room for love you can choose to bring love or there is no space for you.
So why am I telling you all this? Well think about your life and what you make space for, and what you wish you didn't have space for. If you only have room for love what do you think would happen to your social, work, or family life? What if you made what you loving the focus for your life and pruned away all that isn't in alignment with it? What would vanish from your life if there was truly only room for love? Let me know in the comments below.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
I realize the past few months I have been harder edged than usual. Life sometimes goads a response to treatment and mine has been to be a little less patient with people and their "stuff". In setting boundaries with people it is easy to forget about love.
Some may argue that we should accept everyone unconditionally into our lives and just love them. This sounds pretty and is a beautiful concept. Some people even seem to manage this. I don't generally recommend this as a lifestyle choice. Let me explain. Whenever I have been lax in screening the company I keep I have ended up in very dangerous situations. I have in the past been: confronted and drained of my chi by psychic vampires, threatened with bodily harm at a party (the man had a gun in his truck…he didn't make it to his truck), been physically assaulted in a public restroom by a drunken concert goer, and interacted with magical folk that liked to try out their hexes whenever they disagreed with someone. This list is just a short summary of a few years in my twenties when I didn't realize that I had control over whom I interacted with in my social life.
I am sometimes accused of being cold or stand offish. People mistakenly think I am looking down at them. I am not, what I am doing is hanging back for a while to see if they are the sort that is going to fly off in a rage and attack me. This makes me slow to warm up to people, particularly if they project a hard or aggressive demeanor.
Compassion, acceptance, and inclusion are central concepts to many spiritual paths. They are easy to say and hard to practice. I give myself a little more leeway now considering all that I have experienced. Doing clearing work and depossession on occasion you run across beings that do not provoke a loving response, usually they stir up the opposite feelings of revulsion and terror. My response has been to call in helping spirits that remove them as lovingly as possible. It ends up being a healing for them too though as they are removed from the sphere of worldly influence and are tended to. Recently in doing a little clearing work for a good friend (no entities involved just emotional energy) while we smudged and rattled the space I began to sing various power songs. I find that singing is one of the best ways to focus energy and intent and to move with spirit. As I moved through one of the more charged spaces I began to sing "There's only room for love." This became a chant and then a power song in its own right. It is simple and powerful. It allows beings to retain the choice of what they carry on them, but also enforces good boundaries. If there is only room for love you can choose to bring love or there is no space for you.
So why am I telling you all this? Well think about your life and what you make space for, and what you wish you didn't have space for. If you only have room for love what do you think would happen to your social, work, or family life? What if you made what you loving the focus for your life and pruned away all that isn't in alignment with it? What would vanish from your life if there was truly only room for love? Let me know in the comments below.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Sunday, January 11, 2015
Served
Greetings all,
It has been a week of deep cold and deep thought. In this time of cold I find myself looking for ways to conserve my energy. Well every action has a reaction.
My business and my life purpose is one of service. Being of service is something we seem to be very confused about in these times. It is not the same as being a servant. I was recently subject to some very disrespectful and petty treatment while offering assistance to someone while working. What it highlighted in me is how entitled people feel to special treatment. There is an attitude some people carry that anyone who is being paid for a service or a job is somehow beneath you. I've had people act as if they own me while requesting top notch service. This is not the way to the Mooneagle's heart. (Truthfully he doesn't much care for it when he sees you treat your waitress that way either).
So I thought perhaps I should make clear what my service does for you (not you reading this you would never be petty to someone helping you). I help people when they are confused and unsure, I offer them another perspective that steps out of the normal view of time. I help people when they have encountered spiritual energies that are detrimental to their safety and enjoyment in life. I remove obstacles and limits from people. However I do not make people happy. It is not in my job description. Your happiness is your job. This is not to say that I don't want or care about your happiness, but I am not responsible for it.
You may be thinking, "But what am I paying you for Thomas?" Well I'm just there to help on your path I cannot make you enjoy it. That really is your job. If you think that it is consider this, have you ever tried to cheer someone up who just didn't want to be cheered up. You know someone who was upset with their spouse, friend, or boss. What about when someone has just had a major trauma? Did you make them happy within moments of it? I didn't think so. While I am here to help I am not in charge of your emotions just as you are not in charge of other people's feelings. Certainly there are things you and I can do (or not do) that contribute to how they feel, but only to a point. I have worked with people who were in pretty bad situations and then they got everything they asked for. I'd like to report that they lived happily ever after, they did not. They were just as miserable with everything they received as they had been in their prior situation.
So you may be wondering how this applies to you, or if I am talking about you. Well how do you treat those that are there as supporting roles in your life? How are you treated by others that you give service to? How much contortion do you do to try and make people happy? Are you exhausted by it? There comes a time to detach and let people have their experience, and that is being of service. Being of service means we give people what they need which is not always what they want. Ponder that for a while.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
It has been a week of deep cold and deep thought. In this time of cold I find myself looking for ways to conserve my energy. Well every action has a reaction.
My business and my life purpose is one of service. Being of service is something we seem to be very confused about in these times. It is not the same as being a servant. I was recently subject to some very disrespectful and petty treatment while offering assistance to someone while working. What it highlighted in me is how entitled people feel to special treatment. There is an attitude some people carry that anyone who is being paid for a service or a job is somehow beneath you. I've had people act as if they own me while requesting top notch service. This is not the way to the Mooneagle's heart. (Truthfully he doesn't much care for it when he sees you treat your waitress that way either).
So I thought perhaps I should make clear what my service does for you (not you reading this you would never be petty to someone helping you). I help people when they are confused and unsure, I offer them another perspective that steps out of the normal view of time. I help people when they have encountered spiritual energies that are detrimental to their safety and enjoyment in life. I remove obstacles and limits from people. However I do not make people happy. It is not in my job description. Your happiness is your job. This is not to say that I don't want or care about your happiness, but I am not responsible for it.
You may be thinking, "But what am I paying you for Thomas?" Well I'm just there to help on your path I cannot make you enjoy it. That really is your job. If you think that it is consider this, have you ever tried to cheer someone up who just didn't want to be cheered up. You know someone who was upset with their spouse, friend, or boss. What about when someone has just had a major trauma? Did you make them happy within moments of it? I didn't think so. While I am here to help I am not in charge of your emotions just as you are not in charge of other people's feelings. Certainly there are things you and I can do (or not do) that contribute to how they feel, but only to a point. I have worked with people who were in pretty bad situations and then they got everything they asked for. I'd like to report that they lived happily ever after, they did not. They were just as miserable with everything they received as they had been in their prior situation.
So you may be wondering how this applies to you, or if I am talking about you. Well how do you treat those that are there as supporting roles in your life? How are you treated by others that you give service to? How much contortion do you do to try and make people happy? Are you exhausted by it? There comes a time to detach and let people have their experience, and that is being of service. Being of service means we give people what they need which is not always what they want. Ponder that for a while.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
Saturday, January 3, 2015
The Filler Months
Greetings all,
I hope you've had a happy holiday season. We've come to the post holiday season now. Many of us have made resolutions, Many are assessing to see if our pants still fit after all of our feasts with family and friends.
Here in the northern hemisphere we have come to what are generally the coldest and grayest months of the year. We don't have any more big holidays to distract us from the darkness. The cold tends to make us stay in and retreat from the world. Some people like this time if they have personal projects lined up. With less frenetic activity of the other 3 seasons and with no more major holidays until spring it can be an excellent time to limit distractions and make major headway towards personal goals. For others it can be very challenging as the parties are over and in many cases our loved ones have departed to far flung locations. If winter weather events occur we can then feel even more isolated, trips out may be limited to just work and out to get necessities.
I myself am originally from Florida. A real winter wasn't something I experienced until late in my childhood. Every year winter is a struggle for me emotionally. The time between New Years and the spring equinox have often felt like the filler months. I make a lot of plans for the spring and just sort bide my time. This year I have decided not to wait until spring has sprung to get out and see people. While it hasn't been too cold yet I have made an effort to spend at least 20 minutes a day outside walking. This alone has helped me feel better. It isn't just the natural light although that is part of it, but connecting with the world outside my home. Feeling the trees even as they dream of the spring to come helps me to feel a part of something larger than my own life. I hear the crows calling and feel the wind and it makes me feel more alive and less caged in.
Beyond my outside/exercise/spiritual practice I'm also making a commitment to not go full hermit this year. I'm planning movie nights, craft nights and regular game nights. Fun does not have to wait until the world turns green again. Besides all the social plans I also have a ton of planning and work to do for my own business as well putting together my first book. I hope to have that ready by the summer. This year I finally think that I will have no "filler months" in the year, and that every season will be filled with life if a slightly different flavor of it.
So how does this apply to you? Well do you have a season that you see as filler? What if you found a way to get out of your head in that season? What if you used that time to try something different? It couldn't hurt after all the worst that can happen is that it can be a filler of a different sort. What ways can you reach out and connect with something you love no matter the time and circumstances? Ponder it in the time between the holidays and the coming of spring.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
I hope you've had a happy holiday season. We've come to the post holiday season now. Many of us have made resolutions, Many are assessing to see if our pants still fit after all of our feasts with family and friends.
Here in the northern hemisphere we have come to what are generally the coldest and grayest months of the year. We don't have any more big holidays to distract us from the darkness. The cold tends to make us stay in and retreat from the world. Some people like this time if they have personal projects lined up. With less frenetic activity of the other 3 seasons and with no more major holidays until spring it can be an excellent time to limit distractions and make major headway towards personal goals. For others it can be very challenging as the parties are over and in many cases our loved ones have departed to far flung locations. If winter weather events occur we can then feel even more isolated, trips out may be limited to just work and out to get necessities.
I myself am originally from Florida. A real winter wasn't something I experienced until late in my childhood. Every year winter is a struggle for me emotionally. The time between New Years and the spring equinox have often felt like the filler months. I make a lot of plans for the spring and just sort bide my time. This year I have decided not to wait until spring has sprung to get out and see people. While it hasn't been too cold yet I have made an effort to spend at least 20 minutes a day outside walking. This alone has helped me feel better. It isn't just the natural light although that is part of it, but connecting with the world outside my home. Feeling the trees even as they dream of the spring to come helps me to feel a part of something larger than my own life. I hear the crows calling and feel the wind and it makes me feel more alive and less caged in.
Beyond my outside/exercise/spiritual practice I'm also making a commitment to not go full hermit this year. I'm planning movie nights, craft nights and regular game nights. Fun does not have to wait until the world turns green again. Besides all the social plans I also have a ton of planning and work to do for my own business as well putting together my first book. I hope to have that ready by the summer. This year I finally think that I will have no "filler months" in the year, and that every season will be filled with life if a slightly different flavor of it.
So how does this apply to you? Well do you have a season that you see as filler? What if you found a way to get out of your head in that season? What if you used that time to try something different? It couldn't hurt after all the worst that can happen is that it can be a filler of a different sort. What ways can you reach out and connect with something you love no matter the time and circumstances? Ponder it in the time between the holidays and the coming of spring.
Peace and Blessings,
Thomas Mooneagle
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